The ensuing interregnum lasted somewhat over a year, but reinforcing the truism that one never knows what the future may hold, the story has resumed. At some point in early 2006 I got email saying he had recently read a book that made him miss me very much.
I responded that I was here as usual and not planning on being away any time soon. In due course he came over, and as easily as though we'd last seen each other only the day before, we reconnected.
Since then, we've been having what I would call a very good friendship. Perhaps surprisingly, I find it more or less impossible to characterize the ways in which things are different this time, but they do seem different. It has been over a year. He seems more relaxed, more secure and somehow mature, but that impression itself may well be more or less irrelevant.
The facts are that we see a lot of each other, watch DVD movies, go to concerts, restaurants, bars. He's training harder than ever for Ironman events. I try to support and encourage him. He is very supportive of all my endeavors too, especially my musical efforts. He comes over for home-cooked food with some regularity. I love to cook and we both love to eat, so that works very well. It's almost an established routine.
At any rate, we always have fun -- I do and I'm sure he does too. Maybe more significantly, there seems to be an increasing level of trust, of emotional intimacy between us.
These qualities always seemed fleeting or precarious in the earlier parts of the friendship. Now they seem more solid and better integrated as part of a shared emotional space.
We both know that if the other is upset or perplexed or somehow needing to vent emotionally, strong support will be there, and right away too. We both went through some of that in the early parts of 2007. That's a reassuring development, I think.
[to be continued]